How To Cosleep With Newborn? 21 Top Questions Answered

Are you thinking about trying co sleeping with your baby?

Do you find you and your newborn both struggling with sleep issues with nowhere else to turn?

Or would you just like to stay closer to your child and form a tighter bond with the newest member of your family?

No matter what the reason, if you’re thinking about co sleeping, you’re not alone. Many parents enjoy co sleeping with their newborns and even older children, but before you get started, it’s important to have a firm understanding of what co sleeping is and especially how to cosleep with newborn babies safely.

As with any aspect of raising your child, safety should be your number one concern, followed by your baby’s happiness and security. If you’re planning to try co sleeping with your newborn baby, we’ve got plenty of information in this article to help you learn more.

Below, we’ve put together a FAQ including most of the common questions and concerns parents tend to have about this process. Whether you’re wondering how to co sleep in the first place or you’re concerned about health risks or even how other members of your family will handle this, we’ve got answers for you below.

By the time you’ve finished reading this article, we hope that you’ll be better informed and will be able to make the right decision about whether or not co sleeping is right for you and your family.

Remember that this isn’t a decision you can necessarily make overnight, although some parents do dive right into it. It’s important to do your research, and if this article brings up even more questions for you, don’t hesitate to look up more tips for safer co sleeping and a better experience for everyone involved.

When you have a newborn baby, you’re bound to have tons of questions about just about everything. Let us help you out with co sleeping with the info below!

Co Sleeping with a Newborn FAQs

We have put together 21 of the most common questions parents and caregivers may have about co sleeping with newborn babies. Whether you’re researching ahead of time before your little one even arrives or you’re looking to make a change in the sleeping setup in your home, we have tips and helpful hints to give you a head start. Remember that, if you ultimately decide co sleeping isn’t right for you, that’s okay. This decision is one you and your partner should make based on your needs as well as your baby’s.

General Co Sleeping

1. What is co sleeping with newborn?

Before you learn more about co sleeping, you should have a solid understanding of what it is—as well as what it isn’t. Co sleeping with a newborn is a little different than it is for older babies and toddlers, but we’ll touch on that in the following question. For now, it’s time for a crash course in the different types of co sleeping with a focus on newborn babies and their safety. There are three main types of co sleeping, and there is a fourth semi-co-sleeping setup as well.

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  • Separate beds in the same room: In this setup, your newborn baby is placed in his or her own separate cot in the same room with your bed. You may place the cot right next to the bed, but as long as the baby’s bed is completely separated from yours, this is the method of co sleeping you’ll be using. Many parents and caregivers find this works best, although it does mean more of a disturbance during the night.
  • Cot sidecar: With a sidecar cot, you can attach a crib or cot to the side of your bed and allow your baby to have his or her own space without having to separate it completely. These cots usually have three sides, and the fourth side is made up of your bed. Your child will still be safely away from anyone sleeping in the family bed but will be within arm’s reach throughout the night. This works for newborns but doesn’t work for older infants and toddlers.
  • Same bed: This is what most people think of when they think of co sleeping. This means you and your baby will be sleeping in the same bed, as well as your partner. With a newborn baby, this is more dangerous than the other two options, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. There are just a lot more safety concerns you’ll need to keep in mind if you choose to go this route.
  • Separate rooms until co sleeping is needed: This is how most families have been sleeping for a long time. In this method, your baby stays in his or her own room until he or she needs to be soothed during the night—either from a bad dream, a nighttime feeding, or some other disturbance. Then, the child is welcomed into the bed with you and your partner for the rest of the night.

The final method isn’t really considered co sleeping, but since it is the most common method, it’s important to take note of it. There isn’t anything inherently wrong with doing it this way, but just know that you won’t technically be co sleeping if you do. You may want to try a few of these methods before you figure out the one that works best for you and your family. Some families also change methods several times throughout the baby’s early stages as his or her needs change, too.

2. What do you need to know before you start co sleeping?

When you’re getting ready to begin the co sleeping process, you should learn more about what you need to know before you ever bring your child into the bed with you. There are many tips and suggestions that have been passed along over the years to encourage better and safer co sleeping experiences for parents and babies both.

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  • If you plan to co sleep in the same shared bed for a long time, invest in a larger bed and put it on the floor. Parents who co sleep in a shared mattress on the floor with no furniture nearby have the greatest success rate with the co sleeping process.
  • If you or your partner smoke, you should never co sleep. Secondhand smoke causes the risk of SIDS to drastically increase. Even if you don’t think you smell like smoke at bedtime, your baby’s sensitive lungs may be harmed.
  • If your baby is breastfeeding, it’s generally safer to put him or her in a cot attachment or separate co sleeping situation.
  • If either parent is significantly overweight, you may want to consider co sleeping in a separate cot or crib or with a co sleeper attachment. You can make a decision based on your own individual situation if this is the case, but it pays to keep this in mind before you get started.

3. What do you need to have before you start co sleeping?

Co sleeping is a pretty easy sleeping method that doesn’t require a lot of additional items to get started. However, there are a few things you need to have before you begin the process. These items can make things both safer and easier for you and your child, so be sure to check this list out before you begin.

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  • Light pajamas for you and your baby. To prevent the risk of suffocation, dress you and your child both in clean, lightweight pajamas. Even if it’s cold out, you will need to adjust the temperature in your home rather than trying to change anything about your baby’s pajamas.
  • Light blankets for the bed. The reasoning for this is the same as above, so be sure you’ve got lightweight covers and pillowcases before you begin.
  • A separate cot or crib, or a cot attachment. If you’re not co sleeping in the same bed with your baby, you’ll need one or both of these for successful co sleeping instead.
  • A new mattress. If your mattress is very soft or worn out, you’ll need to buy a new one. You may also want to go ahead and buy a larger one that will accommodate you and your baby as well as your partner into your baby’s later months and toddlerhood, too.

4. How should you prepare for co sleeping with a newborn?

Other than making sure to pay attention to nightly safety considerations, there are a few things you can do to ensure co sleeping goes well for you, your baby, and everyone else involved. Keep these tips in mind when figuring out how best to prepare for your co sleeping experience.

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  • Always be sure to have a discussion with your partner about the co sleeping habits you’re planning to enforce. If your partner has any concerns or is unhappy with the arrangement, co sleeping will not work for your family. If two adults are sleeping in the bed together with the baby, both adults need to be on the same page about it from day one.
  • If you or your partner are heavily medicated or intoxicated at bedtime, do not co sleep with your baby. Medications and alcohol can cause you to be much less aware of your surroundings while you sleep, and this can be very dangerous for your baby.
  • If either parent has long hair, tie it up (or even cut it) before co sleeping to prevent a choking hazard for the baby.
  • Think hard about the potential risks involved. Although it’s entirely possible to co sleep safely, be sure you think about every aspect before you give it a try.

5. How does co sleeping benefit sleeping habits in both baby and parents?

There are tons of ways co sleeping helps babies and parents both. However, the vast majority of these benefits revolve around sleeping habits in everyone involved in the experience. Understanding how co sleeping can improve your baby’s sleeping habits, as well as your own, may be the key toward helping you decide whether or not this option is right for you.

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  • Sleeping alongside your baby may help you and your child synchronize your breathing and even heart rates throughout the night. This can reduce the risk of SIDS and can also encourage better sleeping for both parties.
  • Mothers and babies who sleep near each other tend to get on the same sleeping cycle, and eventually, mothers will get so in tune with their babies that they will wake up just before their child in anticipation of a nighttime feeding or diaper change.
  • Sleeping near each other in the same room encourages parents and babies both to get back to sleep much more easily, too. This setup means that when it’s time to wake up and tend to the baby during the night, whichever parent is in charge of doing so may not even need to leave the bed at all to complete the required task. Even if it’s necessary to get out of bed, you likely won’t have to wake up all the way in order to nurse, bottle feed, or otherwise see to your child before getting back to sleep.
  • In most situations, babies will sleep peacefully for longer periods of time before nighttime waking when co sleeping is taking place. Babies can self-soothe more easily when they wake up and can sense or see that their parents are close by. Some babies learn quickly to reach out and touch their closest parent when they wake up during this night, and this can help them get back to sleep more quickly, too.
  • Many parents have reported that their babies are generally happier, during the night as well as in the daytime, when they practice co sleeping. This helps their babies get better sleep at night and feel more restful during the day, and this can, in turn, contribute to better experiences overall for the babies and parents both.
  • Of course, if you’re getting a better night’s sleep with your baby then you’re likely to be happier and better able to deal with your day-to-day requirements, too.

6. What happens if sleep is actually more difficult when co sleeping?

In some situations, it may actually become more difficult for you or your child to sleep at night during co sleeping than it was before you began co sleeping. Your partner’s sleeping schedule may also suffer in these situations, too. If this happens, it may be time to rethink the method you’re using for co sleeping or reconsider whether co sleeping is working for your family at all. Although this is a pretty uncommon response to co sleeping, you should always be prepared for the possibility that it just won’t work out for you and your family.

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  • If your baby starts waking up more often during the night when co sleeping, you may just need to try a more hands-off co sleeping setup. For example, if you find that this is happening when your baby sleeps in the bed with you, you might want to try a separate cot or crib instead. This may encourage your child to self-soothe some during the night while you continue to get up and tend to him or her at other nightly intervals.
  • If you are waking up too often during the night because your baby is squirmy or because you’re too worried about co sleeping, it’s definitely a good idea to try a different method instead. Once again, putting your child in his or her separate bed in the same room is likely to alleviate this problem. You may also want to try a cot attachment if your baby is still small enough to fit into one with no problems.
  • If you still wake up during the night too much because you’re worried about your baby, co sleeping may not be right for you. Some parents continue to fret too much throughout the co sleeping process and simply can’t relax with it.
  • If your partner is waking up more than you are during the night, you should either try to better balance the responsibilities of nighttime child care or try a different co sleeping method instead. If your partner continues to express displeasure with the sleeping arrangement even when using a different co sleeping method, then it’s time to stop co sleeping altogether.
  • Both parents should always be in agreement for safe co sleeping purposes.
  • If you find that co sleeping isn’t working even after you’ve exhausted all possibilities, that’s okay. Every baby is an individual and every family is different. There is no shame in needing to go back to a traditional sleeping setup.

7. How do you know it's time to stop co sleeping?

As much as you and your baby love co sleeping, eventually it will be time to stop. Some newborns only want to co sleep for a couple of months before they show signs of being ready for their own beds or even their own rooms, while other children continue co sleeping until they are well past the toddler stage. Most babies, however, will stop co sleeping around the toddler years, but this isn’t a strict rule. Pay attention to your baby’s body language to figure out if it’s time to stop co sleeping.

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  • If you, your baby, or your partner are miserable during the night, stop co sleeping. If nighttime waking is too much to handle, there’s no reason to keep co sleeping.
  • If you co sleep with your baby into the toddler stage, you may need to stop co sleeping if you’re thinking of having another baby. Doing so can make the transition easy for your toddler before you bring another baby into the home.
  • Once again, if your baby is a toddler, he or she may start getting too squirmy during the night for co sleeping. As your child gets older, he or she will take up more space in the bed, and this may lead to less comfortable sleep and the need to stop co sleeping.
  • Finally, if your child is old enough to tell you he or she is ready to stop co sleeping, be sure you listen! Toddlers may express interest in having their own room. If so, this is probably a great time to start moving away from co sleeping. If you’re concerned, you can always sleep in your toddler’s room for a few nights to be sure everything goes smoothly.

8. Should you force your baby to stop co sleeping?

This question is a little tricky and the answer is different for every family. Some families will have situations that require co sleeping to stop before the baby is ready. For example, if you’ll be going back to work or you or your partner will have a work schedule that doesn’t work well with the baby’s sleeping schedule, then it’s time to move away from co sleeping. If either adult is having a tough time at night even though the baby isn’t, it still may be time to encourage the end of the co sleeping experience.

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However, quitting cold turkey doesn’t usually work, unless your child is ready to stop too. You can wean your child away from co sleeping just like anything else, and this may be the best option in this situation.

Newborn Specifics

9. How do you co sleep with a newborn?

The method you choose for co sleeping with your newborn will largely affect the way in which you go about co sleeping. However, no matter which option you choose, there are a few steps that will remain more or less the same:

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  • Everyone who will be sleeping in the same room needs to go to bed at the same time. This is crucial for the co sleeping experience. If you put your baby to bed and then stay up for several hours longer, you’re not really co sleeping in the full sense of the word.
  • Every night, you must check your baby’s sleeping space for any safety risks or concerns. Although you may be very tired when bedtime rolls around, make sure you have enough energy to do a thorough check before you put your baby in your bed, in an attachment cot, or in his or her own cot or crib.
  • Be sure you have everything you may need for nighttime waking on hand before you go to bed. Anything you need for nursing or bottle feeding as well as for diaper changes and anything else should be within arm’s reach. Otherwise, you’ll be interrupting yourself and your baby too much for successful co sleeping.

It can take a little getting used to, but eventually, you’ll be co sleeping like a pro.

10. What is the ideal safety setup for how to co sleep with a newborn?

No matter which co sleeping method you choose to try, the safety tips remain the same across the board—but you may need to be extra cautious when it comes to everyone sharing the same bed. Follow the guidelines listed below to set your baby up for safety success every night when co sleeping takes place:

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  • Always use a firm mattress. You may need to buy a new mattress for this because a soft or worn-out one can cause breathing trouble for your little one.
  • Never sleep with more than one pillow per adult—and no pillows for your newborn. Once again, this is something that can cause suffocation if you aren’t careful, so less is more when it comes to pillows.
  • Use only one thin cotton blanket and never pull it up close to your baby’s face. You may get cold during the night, but too many blankets can be dangerous, especially with newborn babies.
  • Check every edge of the bed. Be sure there are no gaps your baby can fall through between the bed and headboard or footboard. Be sure the sides of the bed are not close to any furniture. If you use a bed rail, be sure it’s flush against the mattress.
  • Put your baby on his or her back for sleeping to reduce the risk of SIDS.

This may sound like a lot, but remember it’s for the safety and health of your child!

11. Can newborn co sleeping cause SIDS?

Unfortunately, this is a question no one quite has the answer to. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, co sleeping can increase the risk of SIDS. However, there are plenty of parents who have tried co sleeping with no dangerous results, and there are also, unfortunately, parents who have dealt with SIDS with no co sleeping involved at all.

When it comes down to it, the risk of SIDS increases during unsafe co sleeping situations, but there’s nothing to prove that it increases when safety is prioritized during co sleeping.

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Of course, the risk of SIDS doesn’t increase at all when you opt for co sleeping in separate beds but in the same room. Co sleeping in a cot attachment also doesn’t increase the risk of SIDS as long as normal safe sleeping habits are practiced.

There have been some studies to show that the risk of SIDS actually decreases when newborn babies are allowed to sleep in close proximity to their mothers because mother and baby’s breathing synchronizes during the night. However, this information still needs to be studied further in order to back it up, so you may want to consider this with a grain of salt until it can be further explored.

Toddlers and Older Kids

12. How is this different from co sleeping with older babies?

Co sleeping with older babies tends to have many of the same safety concerns, but there are some notable differences:

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  • When you co sleep with an older infant or a toddler, as your baby ages, you have fewer and fewer safety risks to worry about. The risk of SIDS eventually fades and you will be able to co sleep without as much cause for concern.
  • Older babies cannot co sleep in a sidecar cot arrangement. These attachments are usually not built for children older than about 6 months of age, depending on the model of attachment cot you’re looking at.
  • Eventually, your baby may also outgrow his or her own separate cot and you’ll need to think about putting a toddler bed in your bedroom instead. These beds are widely available and may make co sleeping in separate beds in the same room easier for a little while longer.
  • You’ll be better able to tell if your baby or toddler is enjoying the co sleeping experience or is ready for his or her own bed.

When you’re co sleeping with a newborn baby, you need to remember that your baby’s safety is the number one priority, and the comfort and safety of everyone involved is a close second.

13. How can you deal with jealousy issues from older children?

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For the most part, older children probably aren’t interested in co sleeping anymore if they’ve already moved on to their own separate rooms. However, every now and then, you may encounter an older child who is getting jealous of all the time you’re spending with the new baby. This tends to happen especially in children who are older than your newborn but not quite old enough to understand that the baby has different needs.

Sometimes, you may be co sleeping with your toddler until your newborn comes along. However, it’s very unsafe to co sleep with a newborn and toddler in the same bed, so it may be time for your older child to get his or her own room. In order to prevent or reduce jealousy, make sure you really play up the excitement of a separate room and let your toddler be involved with choosing new sheets and even room décor.

If your older child is still jealous, the best thing you can do is talk on his or her level about what’s going on. Communicate with your child and remember that your older children understand more than you may give them credit for. Eventually, they’ll come around.

14. Is it possible to co sleep with older children and your newborn at the same time?

For the most part, co sleeping with your newborn and your toddler in the same bed is never recommended. Although some parents can make it work with few to no problems, for the most part, it’s considered very unsafe because your toddler or older children are unpredictable during the night. You can’t expect a child to be responsible for a baby in the bed, and you certainly can’t expect a newborn to let you know if something is going wrong. Because of this, you should consider other options.

That’s not to say you can’t co sleep at all with your toddler and newborn, however. You just need to make sure you’re following safe co sleeping guidelines in this special situation.

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  • One child could have a separate bed. For example, you may be able to get your toddler excited about having his or her own toddler bed in the same room with you and the baby. Although your toddler may feel sad that his or her place in the family bed has been taken over by the new baby, he or she will likely be happy about having a special bed for “big kids,” too.
  • On the other hand, if your toddler isn’t taking to this idea very well, you can always begin with your baby in a separate cot or crib instead. When your baby reaches toddlerhood, you can readjust the sleeping arrangements to better suit everyone involved.
  • Your baby could sleep in a cot attachment. These attachments are usually the best route for co sleeping with a baby and a toddler together. This way, the baby can be on the side of the bed with one parent (likely with his or her nursing mom) and the toddler can be on the other side of the bed, between your partner and a bed rail.
  • Two mattresses in the same room may work. If your partner agrees and you have a large enough sleeping space, you may want to put two mattresses on the floor, pushed against each other, and co sleep this way. You can sleep on one mattress with your baby on the outside, and your partner can sleep on the other with your toddler on the opposite side. This is a safe option that will keep both children from falling off the bed, too.

Figuring out how to co sleep with a toddler and newborn at the same time isn’t always easy, but it doesn’t have to be too challenging either.

15. How can you plan for parent infant co sleeping later in your child's life?

If you want to keep co sleeping into your child’s toddler years and even later, you may need to buy a bigger bed before anything else. You might also want to consider putting two mattresses together on the floor so that everyone has a little more room during the night, although this isn’t necessary for many situations.

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You’ll also want to start learning more about your child’s likes and dislikes and how to tell when he or she is happy and satisfied or frustrated with something. Your child may not be willing to express to you when he or she is ready to stop co sleeping, so it’s important to pay attention and learn to read your baby from early on.

Co sleeping later on in your baby’s life and even into his or her childhood is entirely possible, and many parents continue this practice with no trouble. Remember that you should stop co sleeping by puberty if your child hasn’t shown interest in his or her own room before this point.

Other Concerns

16. How can you tell your baby is going to be a good candidate for co sleeping?

Understanding whether or not your child is going to do well with co sleeping can be tricky, especially if your little one is still a newborn. However, with the right information and with a keen eye for warning signs from your baby, you’ll be able to figure this out quickly and determine if the setup will work for your child.

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  • If your baby is very squirmy, co sleeping may not work. Your child may be letting you know that he or she is uncomfortable, and this may also affect your ability to sleep at night as well as your baby’s.
  • If your baby is breastfeeding, you may prefer to co sleep. If your baby has already weaned onto a bottle or if you’ve been bottle feeding from the beginning, your child may be less inclined to co sleep in some situations.
  • If your baby is waking up more often during the night with co sleeping than he or she was before you started co sleeping, this is a sign your child is getting used to “on demand” attention and may not respond well to co sleeping.

17. Will your baby become spoiled from co sleeping as a newborn?

Most of the time, the answer to this is no, your baby will not become spoiled more by co sleeping than he or she would without co sleeping. However, there are always exceptions to just about everything, and you should remember that the key to successful co sleeping is being able to read your baby’s body language.

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If you notice your child waking up more often during co sleeping than when he or she is sleeping in a separate bed or separate room, this may mean your baby is getting spoiled to the idea of having nursing or bottle-feeding sessions whenever he or she wants them. This can mean that it’s time to stop co sleeping, but not always.

Even if your baby is starting to do this, you may just need to tough it out for a few nights in order to break the habit. Just be sure to speak with your child’s pediatrician if you do this so that you can tell if your baby is still getting plenty of nutrition throughout the day and during regular nighttime feedings, too.

18. Do you have to give up on intimacy with your partner when co sleeping with an infant?

Not necessarily. You and your partner certainly won’t be able to enjoy any intimacy when your baby is in the bed with you, but that doesn’t mean your sex life has to suffer, either. You’ll just need to figure out how to work around the co sleeping setup in order to find time to spend with each other.

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  • Chances are your baby is probably at least taking daytime naps without co sleeping. If both parents are home during this time, this can be a great opportunity for a little one-on-one time together.
  • There’s no harm in asking a trusted babysitter or family member to watch your child for a few hours every now and then to give you and your partner some time to yourselves. Date night without the baby is an important factor in many new parents’ relationships, and yours is no different!
  • You may need to plan intimacy a little more than you did before your child was born. However, this is true of just about any new parents, too, and it’s not something that’s only involved with co sleeping babies.
  • Don’t forget about getting creative when it comes to locations for intimacy! There are other rooms in your home, and you may want to use them.

19. Is co sleeping really all that popular with other parents?

Absolutely! You might be surprised by how many parents even in your own family or community are practicing co sleeping with their babies right now. Although there are plenty of groups, organizations, and individuals who will gladly argue with you about the safety of co sleeping at any time, there are just as many who support it and believe it’s a healthier and better option in almost every situation.

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Many parents participate in co sleeping when their babies are newborns. Some parents may not even have started out planning to co sleep, but they may soon find themselves in a co sleeping situation because their babies are not taking well to sleeping alone. If this happens, parents tend to get desperate and are willing to try anything to get their children to sleep—even if that means going back on something they swore they would never do.

There have been plenty of studies to prove that babies generally do better when they co sleep at least in the same room with their parents, and parents often enjoy plenty of benefits throughout the process, too. Although co sleeping might not be for everyone, more and more families are joining the ranks of co sleepers every year, and the trend doesn’t seem to be going anywhere anytime soon.

As more families participate in co sleeping, the safety risks are decreasing as well. Parents are learning more and more about what makes co sleeping safe and what to avoid during the process, too. As the years pass, the setup is probably only going to improve even more, and it’s possible that co sleeping may eventually be more widely recognized as a safe alternative for babies who just don’t take well to sleeping alone.

20. Is it possible to handle night feedings even when bottle-feeding instead of breastfeeding?

Absolutely! Although there may be a little more involved with nighttime bottle feedings than with nighttime breastfeeding sessions, you can still make this happen without a lot of disturbance during your co sleeping experience. Whether your baby has already weaned onto a bottle or you have been bottle feeding your newborn from day one, you may want to consider the options when it comes time to bottle feed during the night while you’re co sleeping with your baby.

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  • In a traditional sense, you may need to get up and go get a bottle from the refrigerator in the kitchen. You can prepare a bottle for your child before bed and store it safely in the fridge until it’s needed during the night. Using this method, you or your partner will probably need to wake up all the way, and you may disturb your baby and other children in the household a little bit more, but this is generally the way most co sleeping parents handle bottle feeding at night.
  • Some parents have had luck putting a small mini-fridge in the bedroom and using it for nighttime bottles. With this method, you or your partner may not have to wake up all the way, and you likely won’t need to disturb your child as much. However, it can be more expensive to buy a mini-fridge, and the noise of it running during the night could be disturbing to you, your partner, or your child.

21. What are the situations in which you should not try co sleeping?

Although co sleeping tends to work well for many families, there are always situations in which you should not try co sleeping at all. It’s important to know what those situations are so that you can avoid any mishaps or dangerous circumstances for your baby or for yourself.

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  • Do not try co sleeping if both parents can’t go to bed at the same time. You should never bring your baby to bed after your partner has already gone to sleep because you will be unable to let your partner know that there is a baby in the bed. You should also not go to bed with your baby before your partner does because your partner will interrupt your child’s sleep later on in the night.
  • Do not try co sleeping if either parent is a smoker. We’ve already touched on this, but it bears repeating: even if you don’t think you smell like secondhand smoke, you cannot co sleep if you are a smoker.
  • Do not try co sleeping if your newborn was premature. You should wait until your child is a little bit larger before you bring him or her into your bed if this is the case. You shouldn’t have to wait too long, and you can still co sleep in a separate crib in the same room, but even cot attachments generally aren’t recommended for premature babies.
  • Do not try co sleeping if you and your partner are fighting. If you’ve hit a rough point, wait until it passes to give co sleeping a try. Going to bed angry or irritable is not a good way to practice co sleeping. It can be dangerous and can also negatively affect the mood of your child.
  • Do not try co sleeping if you aren’t positive you can provide a safe sleeping arrangement every night for your baby. If you think you’ll go to bed too tired to make a safety check every night or you are prone to forgetting things like this, don’t bring your baby into your bed. You may still be able to co sleep in separate beds in the same room, however.

Conclusion

Do you feel a little bit more educated in the common questions you may have about co sleeping with your newborn baby now? We hope that we’ve answered some of the concerns you may have had about the process and helped you to better decide whether or not this method of sleeping is right for you. With plenty of information to help you make this decision, you’ll be much better able to make the right choice for you, your partner, and especially for your baby.

But is there really a best way to co sleep with a newborn? After all this, you may still be wondering what the right setup is for you. If you’re looking for the best way to co sleep with your baby, remember that the answer to this question is going to be different for everyone. Just because your baby does well with one setup doesn’t mean another baby will, and vice-versa. Try out different arrangements to see what’s best for you.

However, if you’re concerned about the safest possible setup, remember that it’s much safer to put your baby in his or her own crib or cot in the same room with you than to bring your child into the bed with you and your partner. This setup may not work for your baby, but it is generally considered the safest method of co sleeping by far.

Don’t be afraid to try out different strategies to find the right fit. As long as you pay close attention to the safety concerns that may be present when co sleeping with any baby and you ensure that the sleeping space is safe for your child, you should have no trouble. And as always, speak to your child’s pediatrician before making any drastic changes to your baby’s lifestyle.

Good luck and have fun with your newborn co sleeping experience!

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